Relationship Rant thread

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I always wanted to know how people would answer this one if their girlfriends are a little chubby?

You cannot say "No you look practically aneroxic in that baggy shirt".

 

And I wonder which poor sucker Tal will get to run THAT forum

Thank God!! I thought I was the only one going through this

works for me besides, it's usually her fault and by the time I speak to her again she's cooled off already

 

The so-called boyfriend has been re-evaluated and his current status has become "Boytoy" - nuff said.

*sigh*

Wopuld be nice to have a real relationship someday...

 

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BTW why do women want to talk about things late at night anyway?
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Unfortunately this form of torture is performed on men all over the world

Arabwel - check out Berans post from earlier...

 

Cesard: eh?

*confuzzled due to lack of caffeine and severe angsting*

 

Yes, I can see that - the e reason i am not chiming in with any sort of perspective should be very evident from my post

Ergo, no comment

 

@Rolsuk: That's for the better. At least she didn't lead you on. It rarely works out well with one of the people feeling much more than the other.

That's because they want you but they don't want you. Don't let your eyes fool you, this is no contradiction. We're translating from womanese, mind you. Essentially, they don't want you in the sexual way. At all. They want no such stuff and they are in no need for a man. But they actually do need a man, in the sense of a big guy to give them a big hug. They are in need of your caring, supportive side, one which doesn't mean sex. And it will work better if you actually don't mean sex.

Don't leave her alone. If you do and stick to it, she will come to you first and you will appear to have won. But this is actually true: appear. She will start to hate you for making her come to you. Sooner or later, in your male simplicity, you will let your guard loose and trust her fully. Guess what happens next... Hint: they have a good memory and vivid imagination.

Be good to her. She will either change to good or tell you you're too good and leave you. Either way, you are set.

 

The easiest way to stop my better half from talking is to tell her it's gone 10.30pm. She's asleep fairly soon after. The best way to keep her awake at parties is to lie about the time.

 

@Carcaroth

no such luck with me

I tell her that it's nearly 2am in the morning and I've got a microeconomics class in the morning and she still wont let up :/

 

Well I for one can offer the perspective of a female in a relationship. My girlfriend and I have been going out for about three months, just to give a bit of background. And for the record, we still don't understand each other, even though we're the same sex.
So here are two tips for males (or females) who wish to engage in a relationship with us:

1: When we say nothing's wrong, listen to our tone of voice when we say it. If we sound bored, it means something's wrong, and you're going to pay in one form or another, but nothing too big. If we sound happy, it means there's a moderately large problem, and we already have a plan to remedy it, usually at your expense, which will typically be implemented in the next 24-72 hours, or 48-96 if you're lucky, or 12-36 if we're bored. If we sound agitated, run; you're probably going to be severely injured, either mentally or physically, or possibly both. If we sound angry, you're already dead and simply haven't gotten around to lying down. If we sound nonchalant, then most likely nothing's wrong, but there still might be anyway.

2: When you ask us what we want to do, if we respond with "I dunno," it means, "You should already know what I want to do based on your past experience(s) with me, and you have lost respect in my eyes by showing that you have not been paying attention these past months/years. Furthermore, if you do not do something to placate me, preferably by doing one or more of my favourite activities with me, you will continue to lose respect over an amount of time contingent on how long we have been dating -- the longer we've been dating, the less time you'll have -- until such time as Global(RESPECT)=0, which is the time at which you will be dumped in favour of a better prospective mate."

 

Wow, good stuff Fara. Keep it coming, maybe even write a book

 

uh-oh, I think I fall in the number 2 category problem

 

Tal really does save a lot of people here the money for a therapist.

Love...It's equally complicated for both parties involved. Empathy is the key word.

and some practical advice: We know you don't like answerring text messages (if we want to get a reply from our guy mates for example there must be at least one obvious question present in the message for them to respond), or don't think it is very important (and perhaps we overreact in this regard, but we can't help it), but an unanswerred message ruins our day. So just text back. Or text out of your own initiative. It'll make our day.

 

tis' subject is beyond me in the state that i'm in right now...

 

Unanswered massages can ruin the day for a guy, too.

 

Which will prompt her to text back over and over (at 1am in the morning)

Lucky you

 

When a girl says she wants to be your friend, should you risk loosing it by trying to take it further?

 

Yes.

Well, actually that's what I did and it happened to be a good decision. Share some time and thoughts first.

 

*sigh* My wonderful ex deserves better friends then me. After a long serious discussion with her I came to this realization. Please, don't try to deny it or cheer me up, I just had to say it and this seemed like a good place to do so.