Relationship Rant Thread #6

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@Chicken and Saber : uh, exotic dance?

 

Tri! That's hardly a flattering or appropriate question

 

Ha, I wish... actually I don't

One of her majors is dance and she preformed tap and some ballet yesterday. Apparently she's pretty good at hip-hop dancing as well (won national contests with some friends of mine), but I don't care much for that.

 

Awww, I'm just yanking their chains...

 

I laughed at it.

Reminds me of the song 'Centerfold' haha.

 

Humm, about an hour to decide which face I should wear for my date...

It's a small consolation that she must be as nervous as I might be.

Hmm, hmm. Self-confidence, check. Just have to be careful not to seem too arrogant. Witty? Why yes, let's try to make it so, but not too "ha-ha I'm so funny I'll kill myself by laughing at my jokes". Assertive? Eh, hardly makes the game interesting if I reveal my cards now does it? Let's hope she's not the kind of girl who likes to hold all the cards. I wouldn't mind, but when the shroud of mystery is unveiled, then there's very few things of interest in there...So perhaps a little mysterious, yes? That would be good, but not too secretive...If it's hard enough to get a grip, there shouldn't be too big secrets lying in there. (And that my friends, of course, was a double-entendre).

Ah! I do have to be careful not to appear too snooty and snobbish. Heavens forbid!

 

My advice is to make her laugh. Laughter is the key to the heart. If she does, your in her good books!

Oh, and don't forget a mint, always useful!

 

You'll get to the heart much faster with a scalpel and tongs, though.

 

Yeah, but that is too messy, and a turn off...

 

ARGH. Big dilemma. The best friend of the girl I am kind of (but not really) seeing (we aren't calling it dating because I don't want to be in a relationship, but basically we do everything people who date do, which I am not sure I want) wants to **** me so badly... and I want to as well, but that can only lead to a bad situation with the first girl.

I am in the period of my life where I need to experiment (or at least experience) some new things, and I really do want to hook up with multiple women; the girl I am kinda with would be perfect for me in like 1.5 years... but right now I need something different, but at the same time I don't. **** me.

 

The answer to your problem is simple -- take a page from the DotW book and take 'em both, triple threat style.

 

@Saber: Think ahead. Flip a coin. A head? Yes please. Tails. Why, plural, indeed. Flip a coin. Take both, take all that you can get. No regret, no regret.

Or, the holier than thou option: curb your enthusiasm. Cull your desires. Abstain.

Or: Balance. The die, or coins, have been cast. Let nature work its path. Be on the centerfold, the calm at the eye of the storm. Make the world revolve around you. The storm shall come, but you are the calm. Do not pursue, but do not walk away. The game is on, the die is cast. Don't be the player, be the game. Let the huntress come to you. Then she might become the one who is ensnared.



Was this of any help? Probably not. Heh.

 

Saber: Think of it this way ... it's stupid to get married before you're 30, it's damn stupid to get married before you're 25 and really damn stupid to get married before your 20 (I fell into the last category). I don't think you're really damn stupid or even damn stupid, so you have six years to fool around -- if she hasn't forgiven you in six years she's not the right one.

 

Oh dear...tsk, tsk, tsk. Tut, tut, tut...

The symptoms seem to indicate that I may be in love

Give me a pill, doc!

(And the doctor will say: There ain't no cure, there ain't no cure, there ain't no cure for love.)

 

I'd be glad to deliver a reality check should you need it, bro.

 

Here's a quote that sums up how I feel* about being in a romantic relationship:

I'm tired of "compromise" being a woman's code for "do what I want"!

*sometimes. I am happily married and all but some days . . .

 

Sometimes, you just need to put up ground rules, like each deciding what to do for one evening : You decide what the both of you will do on tuesday, she decides for wednesday, etc.

Same with movies. A good compromise if both have different tastes is to take turns choosing a movie.

 

Or just find something you both want to do. Or settle down and do separate things together. The number of times Kev and I settle down on the chairs/beanbags with our laptops, he sits reading his comics and I'll start typing away at something. Then we just chat when we think of something to say, just enjoying each others company and not forcing anything from one another.

I admit I have uttered the phrase "Stop reading those bloody comics and give me a cuddle!" a couple of times, but that's usually after he's read about a dozen and I've logged off for bed

Likewise he'll prod at me if he wants some attention or to head to bed, if one of us is tired we'll both stop what we're doing and settle down for the night.

We've never required the formality of each having our own day for activities, but I know some relationships that have benefitted from the arrangement, feels a little... forced to me though. Though I have never been one for rigidity and tend to be fairly fluid in my thoughts and what I like to do. Hopefully without the sacrifice to reliability!

 

Well...this X-Mas looks like it's going to be the last one with Jessica...and it's going to suck!
Ever since her 2 ER visits, she's been very distant. It's usually 1-2 weeks before I hear from her...and it's almost never a "Hey, I want to see you" conversation.

I had a chat with her tonight, and she refuses to let go of the past and embrace who I am now. I've worked my ass off for her, and she's given almost nothing back. The only reason I cleared my stuff out of the house and agreed to divorce, is because I truly love her...a lot. This is f***ing killing me.


I don't want your pity replies, I just thought I'd update those who care.

 

Thanks for the update, man. No pity, just a manly slap on the back and a commiserative grunt!

ION, Samantha and I usually get along great, but moving at this time of the year, with me having to do end of session stuff and her so busy at work, is really straining us.