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POLL: When do you stand up for other passengers?

Discussion in 'Whatnots' started by shadow lurker, Feb 11, 2007.

  1. Shell

    Shell Awww, come and give me a big hug!

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    @shadow lurker - I usually sit near the front (Yobs like the back seats and schoolkids) so I would offer if they were standing nearby, or say if they had just got on the bus, but not if they were miles away
     
  2. Mesmero

    Mesmero How'd an old elf get the blues?

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    I voted if there are no more seats available, but only to persons who need it more than I do. It seems kinda silly to stand up if the other person can just take a free seat.

    I use public transportation every day, but it doesn't happen too often that I need to give up my seat. I prefer standing on the subway anyway and on the train there are usually free seats. If it is really crowded there are usually only commuters who seem to be in more or less the same physical condition as I am and than it's first come, first served.
     
  3. Nakia

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    Reading these posts over a thought crossed my mind. It does that once in a while. Maybe two thoughts.

    1) We do have a thoughtful, caring group of people here.

    2) Now I say this with a :) but for those of you, say under 30, what looks old (elderly) to you may not be and that may be part of the reason some 'older' people are offended. Here in the USA it is not uncommon for a person in the 50's to get Sr. Citizen discounts if the place does not require proof of age.

    Speaking as a bona fide Sr. Citizen I suggest that you take a good look at the person. Does this person look as if he or she would fall over if they have to stand?
     
  4. Barmy Army

    Barmy Army Simple mind, simple pleasures... Adored Veteran

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    It's not a question of whether or not they actually have the ability to stand though, is it? It's just good manners. I'll give my seat to pretty much anyone really. It's just polite.
     
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    I tend to avoid travelling at busy hours, so I don't think I've ever been faced with the situation. Now, I do always put my laptop on the seat next to me (he's heavy to put on the luggage rack and I've seen one stolen from a train), so I've been taking him down for elderly people or generally anyone not grunting at me. When they are arrogant or they push everyone aside to get the seat, they get to ask first. :evil: But even that doesn't happen all that much. Hurray Belgian railroads.
     
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    I refuse to become telepathic to accommdate people who can't master three little words. :rolleyes: The phrase "Excuse me, please" has myriad applications, and is generally misused only when it is NOT used.
     
  7. T2Bruno

    T2Bruno The only source of knowledge is experience Distinguished Member ★ SPS Account Holder Adored Veteran New Server Contributor [2012] (for helping Sorcerer's Place lease a new, more powerful server!) Torment: Tides of Numenera SP Immortalizer (for helping immortalize Sorcerer's Place in the game!)

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    Old rules apply here.

    A gentleman gives his seat up to:

    Elderly.
    Disabled, sick, or injured.
    A woman (especially if she is pregnant).
    A young child -- allowing the parent to stand next to the child.

    Basically I give up my seat to everyone except healthy males between 10 and 60. It's the way I was raised.
     
  8. Barmy Army

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    Speaking of this, I actually had an awkward situation a few days back. I was sat in the stylists waiting to get my hair cut, and this guy with an obvious limp and a grimace on his face walked in and there were no free seats. He obviously had a disability and had a problem with one of his legs, but he was doing his best not to let it show too much. There was nowhere to sit and nobody gave up their seat. I was sat for a good minute contemplating what to do. I didn't want to say "Here mate, do you want to sit down?" when he might take offence and think "I'm perfectly capable of standing up! Even with my disability!". I was saved the choice by being next in the queue and was called a few seconds later. It was an awkward dilemma though, I'd usually give my seat up to most people but didn't want to offend or upset the fella...
     
  9. revmaf

    revmaf Older, not wiser, but a lot more fun

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    Well, no public transport available where I live now, nor for that matter for the last 15+ years. But back when there was, I'd give up my seat for an obviously elderly or disabled person.

    Now that I am close to one of those categories and might one of these days be the other, I think I would still try to offer my seat to someone worse off than I am.

    On the other hand, when I did use public transport, I often stood for most trips because it was just easier than squeezing in and out of crowded seats.

    Interesting to see the small but real number of folks who just wouldn't give up a seat for any reason. I may reach that point in my life but I'm not there yet.
     
  10. Ragusa

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    I'll free my seat for elderly visually above 70, disabled, sick, or injured and a woman with children or pregnant. The deciding factor is wether there are free seats available.

    I do not free my seat for impolite people, no matter in what circumstances and how old. 'Excuse me' indeed does wonders.
     
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    I'll give up my seat if there's no others avaliable.
     
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    Because pregnant women never use buses here. It would be very dangerous for them. Bus drivers in my city drive like crazy, especially if they get angry. OTOH because of these crazy drivers, public buses are the funniest and most exciting things in this city for maniacs like me. :shake:
     
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    @Rally: I think Uytuun meant people who won't even say "excuse me", much less "please", but will snap at you for not already having stood up yet. Not just people who can't make "excuse me" sound very plaintive. ;)
     
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    It depends really. Fortunatelly in train as it was already metioned it rarely becomes an issue. In busses or trams I give my seat to those who seem in the need of it.

    I fancy myself as polite, but I don't dare to offer the seat to elderly who manage sometimes better then myself. ;)

    Of course should anybody ask, I'd be up in a heartbeat.

    And in the end I prefer standing anyway, maybe just to avoid this issue.
     
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    If I see them (being as I usually have my nose buried in a book)

    Elderly
    Otherwise physically impaired
    Obviously pregnant women
    People with young/small children
     
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    Don't know how I should interpret your comment, Rally, but yeah, what chev said, basically.
     
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    If they are elder and disabled I will offer them my seat if I can.

    I can thankfully live with having to stay on feet for a few hours, whereas some may not.
     
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    @Uytuun and Chev: ditto. THanks for the interpretation!
     
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    Other. I never had cause to offer a seat to anyone, be they old or young. The buses in college town were standing-room-only and I don't go much up here.
     
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    Anyone that needs a seat can have mine, however I get annoyed at obese people that expect me to stand up for them.
     
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