In what situation would you commit suicide.

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I don't think that I would call it a John Wayne theory, but being uncomfortable with the reactions that close ones may exhibit can be scary. It also shows how much we expect from them and how much we want them to say the things we want to hear (which may not be the best...)

Seriously talking about problems helps. My younger sister had her husband walk out on her with their son (who has Cerebral Palsy) claiming she was a slut after other men when it was him who was womanising. He even had other of our family members "convinced" (in her eyes) that everything he said was true. Slowly and surely through talking with those who care for her she realised that what she was seeing and feeling was not all correct. We know what she's like better than him...

Perhaps you should try to get your close family members to hear how you feel and say what you want to say even if it is "emotional" or a "hot topic", because they know you best and they will listen.

All the advice that others have given about (especially from the ladies) is all very true and useful. Hang in there and give it a go.

 

By The John Wayne Theory, I meant that society in general has put pressure on men (partly through our own fault of not bucking the image) to be very much like one Marion Michael Morrison and "Stand tall, be tough, let nothing bother you"
To act like nothing matters except being tough and not crying or showing much human emotion. I'd be hard pressed to show you a guy who has never once been told, in the face of such grief, to "Get over it/Move on/There's plenty of other fish in the sea". Granted, I've not sat through a whole John Wayne movie so for all I know, his characters may have been very much the opposite of this image that has been put out there about him.
But basically, that's the image I was brought up with of a man, simply through not having a father figure outside of TV and movies - Big Boys Don't Cry so i'ts hard to break down that programming after so long

BTW, I do appreciate all the input, thank you to everybody who's helped and apologies for "hi-jacking" this thread

 

I would commit suicide if I get more depressed than I am now..