...and *Pop* went the weasel. (goodbye)

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I thought I'd explain my coming absence before you start thinking i'm dead or just left. I'm sure you're all dying to know

To cut a long story short; My stepdad vented all his anger on me last sunday, and my mother emptied hers out on me as well. Lots and lots of big big arguments have got more and more frequent, and it's ended up in my current situation. My current situation is where I am to pay rent, having my computer/internet access removed and mum 'ignoring me round the house'.

It's not terrible to the point i'm getting beaten, but it is pretty bad so i'm taking this oppertunity to move out. You may think it's pretty pathetic but it was going to happen at some point. I may have mentioned to some that it may come to this point, and now it has. I don't know how long I will be without internet access, it may be anything between 3 weeks and 3 months. Or even much longer.

I've taken 2 semi-permanent jobs to keep some income coming in for the inevitably huge expenses, but it'll be worth it eventually.

I'll be living with a friend - indefinetely - so I really don't know how long I'll be out of reach. I will still be able to check my email (gopher@sorcerers.net) on a semi-regular basis from the college network, but that really is everything I can do.

@Oaz - Hopefully I'll be able to attend D&D sessions and such on fridays from a friend's home computer or an internet cafe if I've got the cash, so hopefully I won't ruin it for you guys.

@Others - thanks..uh, for everything. You know who you are

I've not really got much else to say, if you reply there's a good chance I won't be able to read it for a good few weeks maybe. Sorry, this is a bit long winded and over-emotional, so I'll cut it short here.

Bye all.

[ November 14, 2003, 15:39: Message edited by: Gopher ]

 

Well that certainly sucks. I hope everything turns out all right for you.

 

well, I guess you can look on the bright side. You get to live with a friend and you don't have to take sh*t from your mom - and stepdad.

 

That's too bad. We'll miss you. Take care and good luck.

 

Damn Gopher, sorry to hear about your situation, I thought everything was going better for you If you want I can put your mom and stepdad in The Atlas of Doom Good Luck

 

survival of the fittest dude, show 'em all what ya made of.

sounds totally unreal to me though, hopefully you'll keep above water.

 

Ooooooooooh...

We'll miss you Gophy!

 

Sorry to hear that. I don't know the specifics of your situation, but hopefully, after some time has passed, you will be able to patch things up. But for now, you have probably made the right decision.

 

I'm sure you'll overcome whatever problems you have at the moment.

Keep looking forward to the good times, Goph.

 

/me sends you lots and lots of good karma

We'll all be looking forward to your return, Goph.

 

* makes fist, hits chest twice, extends arm in salute.*

As-Salaam-Alaikum, my brotha. Don't let the man getcha down.

 

Good vibes sent your way Gopher! I wish you much strength to do what's necessary.

I'm sure we'll see you soon again.

 

Goph, you are not only the shiznits, but also the biznatch. Peace out, dude.

 

Goodbye and Good luck! I hope everything works out for the best for you. Farewell Goph!

 

See you down the road Gopher, just keep saying everything will turn out for the best no matter what. Your mom and stepdad will not know what they will be missing.

 

Take care, Gopher. I know some of it... not as much as you perhaps, but enough to have a picture. Just take care, let's not get into big words. Hope it'll eventually turn out good for you.

 

Everyone who's ever had or has come through the teenage year knows how hard it can be both for the teenager and everyone around. In our household I thought most things were going reasonable ok, even though we have arguments and try to do whats best even if it means pushing our children to do certain things.

So when my husband pop's in to this website to proudly show a colleauge the work our 16 year old son (I say our son even though my husband is his steph dad, he is the one who has been there since he was 6, helping out, paying, looking after, loving, raising etc) has done more or less free of charge for this website, Imagine what he felt reading Gophers posting.....

Not only is big parts of it untrue it is also very, very hurtful!

* We did have an argument when both of us questioned the fact that Gopher had done nothing about getting a new job, he goes to school max 25 hours per week and only works on a Saturday between 1.30-5.30, we approached him to try to get another job (plenty around at the moment)to get some money together to buy Xmas presents, help with his busspass and learn some independence etc. When he made it clear that he had no intention of workinig we said that until he made either the effort of getting himself another job or helping out a lot more at home(all we asked was for 1.5 days work per week), we would take away his internet connection since that is where he is spening all his time.

*We have never and will never hit him.

*We have never asked for rent.

*He has not mentioned moving out, and yesterday he was all sunshine asking for a lift, asking if it was ok to borrow my husbands jacket, getting fed, getting his clothes washed etc.

*This year we have paid for outdoor adventure trip to Scotland with the whole family (had a great time), Sunshine holiday in Portugal, a number of trips to Sweden to see the rest of his family and this summer we even invited one of his friends along and they had a great time going out on the moped we bought him as a "well done" in his exams. We paid for his computer to be build to his specification, we have loved him, welcomed his friends, encouraged him to take the right decisions whilst trying to grow up and we thought that we were doing a pretty good job of making him as happy as any teenager ever gets.

The moral of the story is that teenage children will never know what a thankless and difficult job it is to bring up children until they have done it. PARENTS HAVE FEELINGS TOO!

 

Allthough i don't know nothing about the situation and i am very sorry to see that Gopher will not(maybe?) be here for a while i can't help posting here asking Gophs mom to think that: YES she is right, BUT children have feelings too and by just pushing without explaining is not working. Why don't you sit down as a family and talk instead of shout? Both sides have reasons for taking a stance but if these reasons are not explained to the other side, the stance is taken as a dictatorship. Please talk, not for Sorcerers place benefit but for your own

 

/me sends good thoughts in Gopher's direction. Hope you'll be back soon Gophy...