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Advice on love

Discussion in 'Whatnots' started by Arkados Blackmire, Aug 14, 2001.

  1. Arkados Blackmire Gems: 7/31
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    Haha im turning this into a dating forum...
    But here goes...
    There's this girl that i really like, and she says she really likes me too. But she's got a lot of stuff to think about and a lot of work to do so she says its not a good time... She's not ready to get into a relationship in the near future (until she graduates in June). So she says lets just be friends...
    So what am i to do? can i date other girls? hmmmmmmm.....
     
  2. Brega Gems: 6/31
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    [​IMG] Don't date other girls, have patience, for that is the key.
     
  3. Big B Gems: 27/31
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    If you truly like this girl then don't date other girls. Be her friend and what happens happens.

    What happens happens. How's that for a motto? :D
     
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    From a womans point of veiw.... stay friends as she asks, and remember women like a challange.. so dont drool on her shoes too much :D
     
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    [​IMG] Also speaking as a woman...
    What has been said is true - but have you considered that the young lady may be trying to let you down gently?
    Stay friends and see how it pans out, certainly, but... maybe go out with mixed groups of friends as well! Not with another girl on her own, mind! Boys and girls in a GROUP! Maybe your friend would find going out with you in a group would also be less 'threatening' to her decision not to get involved at the moment, so you could enjoy her company without stressing her out.
    :)
     
  6. Arkados Blackmire Gems: 7/31
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    hmmmm
    good advise all around. more or less what i've been hearing anyway, but thanks all! i guess secretly im hoping people will tell me to date someone else cos waiting sucks. i think i'll just take things as they come. What was it Douglas adams once wrote?
    Whatever happens happens.
    Whatever happens, and has happened before, happens again.
    Or something like that, i remember there was one more...
     
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    Well, you only have to wait for one year, while I have to wait two and a half.... :(

    Just let the time pass! Nobody can predict the future, and who where you'll be in a year from now?
     
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    [​IMG] Go out with other girls!!! Enjoy yourself! I agree with Kitiara, women enjoy a challenge...If you're seeing other people, you WILL be! :D

    Good Luck!
     
  9. Sprite Gems: 15/31
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    If you even want to date other girls, then this is not the right woman for you anyway. When you find "the One" the others will all seem inadequate. So, play the field- if it's not true love there's no reason to limit yourself, and maybe you will find a woman you are so crazy about you forget the first one.

    And from a woman's point of view- I have to say it sounds like this girl is stringing you along. If she was in love with you she would have to be very, very cold to put you off for a year.
     
  10. shadow_thief Guest

    From *my* point of view, if she wanted you, she would:
    A) make you wait long until you go crazy, or
    B) make a gap in her schedule for you.

    It depends on personality. If she's serious about really liking you, it'd be B or not interested. If she is malicious she'd do A or tell you straight off that she doesn't like you. You ppl will probably say what would I know, since I'm only 11. Well...I've been asked this several times among my older friends. Good luck!
     
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    [​IMG] really Arkados Blackmire, wot brega said abt patience is imo the key to your little problem. talk to the girl of your desire, listen to her complaints et al. time will weather down her defence and hopefully warm up her cold heart.

    don't blurt out confessions until she dropped u hints tt she has taken an interest in u. that would ruin everything :)
     
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    [​IMG] In any relationship, without personal involvment, there is only one general rule that can be given. Be true to yourself and honest to the other person. This always works for the best. Relationships are painful and complex. Nothing comes easy in this world, least of all the things worth having.
     
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    I think she's either:

    a.) the type of person who can't say, "no" so she makes up a BS excuse.

    or b.) stringing you along on "reserve"

    either way, move on, if you wait around you could be missing more promising opportunities.

    I am not saying however, that you shouldn't be friends with her. Or that you shouldn't stand outside her window late at night singing childrens songs to yourself and waving around a pair of hedge-clippers, or sending creepy poetry to her that says you'll kill yourself if she doesn't go out with you. Also, when the police finally catch up with you, don't forget to have a copy of "Catcher in the Rye" on your person and scream like a crazed retarded monkey.

    good luck! ;)
     
  14. GONMAR Gems: 6/31
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    If she liked you there's no way she would let you get away...

    So move on...it's only fun when both people feel the same way. Sometimes you just can't make her feel the way you do...and remember no girl is worth wasting your precious time. Get out there and meet more girls...you can be friends but don't put off dates for someone who has basically said no...you'll put off a date for her but she will never put off a date for you...

    Good Luck it's very tricky...
     
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    [​IMG] Good words sprite thats pretty much exactly what I was going to say.
     
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    Hmm, I wish i could really help you but i cannot as my luck with girls seems to get off to a brilliant start and then fade and die causing pain.

    But my advice is, if you know that your feeligns for her are true, then wait till she's ready and be friends with her but don't kill yurself just being a friend, try to soughta become close or good friends then start flirting abit more etc. And then, it'll happen and you will feel the luckiest man alive...damn...i wish i could do that now in my own life...but i can't now...
     
  17. herf Guest

    Why can everyone only see this in black and white?
    Maybe this girl eally does have problems to sort out, maybe shes recovering form a relationship. Maybe putting it off is killing you as much as its killing her.
    Shes probably trying to concentrate on school right now, how many people would want to get involved in a serious relationship right before their final exams? I don't think any sane person would.
    Remain friends with this girl, but at a distance, get too close and she might decide your better as a friend than a lover.
     
  18. Shura Gems: 25/31
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    Hahahahaha, old friend, someone has finally brought the unholy Black Guard Arkados to his knees.....you must be getting old.
    Good luck, is all I can say, given my non-existent knowledge of relationships of any sort.
     
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    Ah if you think that she's the one for you, then justy wait.. You can have fun with the other girls but if you really have feelings for here, don't date others, why you should you search for something you've already found?

    All you need is just a little patience.
     
  20. Fljotsdale Gems: 5/31
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    [​IMG] I wonder why I get the feeling that a lot of the posters in this thread are under 16... ?
    :D
     
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